
The Long Road of Blog
“It’s as though I were living at last in my eyes, as I have always dreamed of doing, and I think then I know why I’ve come here: to see, and so to go out against new things—oh god how easily—like air in a breeze. It’s true there are moments—foolish moments, ecstasy on a tree stump—when I’m all but gone, scattered I like to think like seed…”
William Gass, In the Heart of the Heart of the Country
Why I am Leading/Co-leading Two Year-Long Groups for Adopted People
I’m inviting you to join me in these groups because I believe in myself; I believe in Dr. Joyce, and I believe in you. I believe we can make good things happen if, together, we put our shoulders to the wheel of what we believe is true and push.
Why I Got Divorced or Marrying an Adoptee (Me)
I got divorced from my daughter’s father over twenty years ago, and the reason why just hit me today.
What if Three-Year-Old Me Had Had a VOICE?
Mom and Dad: We’re thinking about adopting another baby.
27,000 Strikes and You're Out
I understand the notion of three strikes and you’re out. You have two chances to figure it out, and one final chance to hit it out of the park. The thing is, if developmental trauma affected your prefrontal cortex, what if you need more chances to do something right?
A Meditation for Adoptees -- Plugging into Your Energy Source
Lie down and get comfortable.
A Class on Value and Money for Adoptees with Joyce Maguire Pavao and Me
After a lifetime of avoiding difficult conversations, I have found my deepest joys in walking straight through doorways that look as if they are on fire.
The Body, the Mother, Music, and the Right Place
I heard You Don’t Look Adopted before I wrote it.
Abandoning Adoptee and Shifting to Trouble
I was thinking the other day how great it is to walk into fear.
Breathing and Being an Adopted Person -- Writings from Class
I decided to ask my writing class of adopted people to write for 20 minutes on their breath.
Adoption and Connection
The last morning of my online retreat, I asked the participants what they needed or what they wanted more of that day. Most people said Connection.