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“It’s as though I were living at last in my eyes, as I have always dreamed of doing, and I think then I know why I’ve come here: to see, and so to go out against new things—oh god how easily—like air in a breeze. It’s true there are moments—foolish moments, ecstasy on a tree stump—when I’m all but gone, scattered I like to think like seed…”

William Gass, In the Heart of the Heart of the Country

(Photo: Brad Ewell)

Anne Heffron 10/25/21 Anne Heffron 10/25/21

Winged Dreams

Sometimes you don’t know what you need until you get it.

Anne Heffron 10/9/21 Anne Heffron 10/9/21

Mental Toughness and Adoption

I am learning my brain, offering it forgiveness and tenderness, and it’s making all the difference.

Anne Heffron 9/27/21 Anne Heffron 9/27/21

After Watching an Episode of The Chair on Netflix -- Guest Blog Post by Bea Bergeron

If or when your adopted child says: “You are not my real mother.”:

Anne Heffron 9/21/21 Anne Heffron 9/21/21

What if the Relinquished Body Refuses to Feel Fully Alive?

The body of the infant bears being born and begins to flourish in the communion of we with the body of the mother.

Anne Heffron 9/18/21 Anne Heffron 9/18/21

What if Trying to Explain the Effects of Motherloss to Nonadoptees is A Waste of Time?

This is what I see: I see a whole flood of incredibly beautiful people repeatedly banging their head against a brick wall. I see these people throwing themselves against the wall, gnashing their teeth, crying, yelling, whispering, begging, holding out money and gifts. And then, over and over again, returning to smashing their heads against this unmoving, uhearing wall.

Anne Heffron 9/16/21 Anne Heffron 9/16/21

If I Could See My Mom One More Time I Would Ask Her These Questions

Now I am an adult, and I would like to meet my mother in the incarnation of myself. I would like to talk to my mother as an adult and ask her questions. I would like to get to know my mother.

Anne Heffron 9/1/21 Anne Heffron 9/1/21

Part 1 of a Series on the Book "Cured" and The Story of the Primal Wound and Adoptees and Freedom

I have to tell you that I consider many adoptees, hold onto your hat, critically ill in one form or another.

Anne Heffron 8/31/21 Anne Heffron 8/31/21

How Well Can You Dream if Your Past Weighs More Than Your Belief in the Future?

Having dreams can be risky for adopted people.

Anne Heffron 8/28/21 Anne Heffron 8/28/21

Love, Yoga, Mothers, and Lost Baby Birds

Do you love me?

Anne Heffron 8/26/21 Anne Heffron 8/26/21

Worker Bee Farm

Farmer Will told me that his farm is where farmers go to get their produce.

Anne Heffron 8/23/21 Anne Heffron 8/23/21

What is a Mother? Or Who? Or How? Guest Blog Post by Shannon Quist

I have to remind myself that I’m the expert on my lived experience, but as far as having a mother, being mothered, being a mother, I have to be honest: I’ve been in the weeds on this for a long time, and though I’ve grown taller, this is a place I’ve not yet conquered.

Anne Heffron 8/22/21 Anne Heffron 8/22/21

Taking up Space and Blowing Through 7-11's Storefront Window

One of my favorite things is to get a text from Pam Cordano that says HAHAHAHAHAHAHA.