What do you do when there’s no one to tell what happened, no one to help you process? How to you absorb the shock of not being seen?

These paintings are my way of processing all of these complex emotions and facts.

I had this idea to ask a group of adopted people to write the screenplay of their life in 30 minutes. So many of us get overwhelmed by our stories—by past traumas in particular—and getting it “all” down on paper in 30 minutes can feel like trying to put a giraffe in an empty aspirin bottle, but once you do it, you feel like you can do anything. You are the master of your own story.

I had the feeling that adopted people who have chosen not to bring children into the world might have a lot to say, so I got some of them together to listen.

I got to 19 minutes and fifty-one seconds in the April 28, 2023 episode of Adoptees On, and I had to take a breather.

If you are struggling to write your story, here’s an idea: take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. Scribble on the right hand side. That chaos is your story in embryo form. The problem is you think it’s your story.

For a long time, I had confused the deep urge to expresss myself and live with anger or depression or trouble.

I had a friend who would sometimes call me “Poor thing” when I’d tell him a story where I was suffering in my life.

“Our podcast dropped today,” Amy texted me. “When you have time, I’d love to hear your thoughts.” I put Bird’s collar and leash back on, opened the car door, and headed out to do more walking.

I’m always surprised when I get a book from the library and find someone had written notes all over the pages.

In You Don’t Look Adopted, I wrote that in my life I felt as if I had one foot on the gas and one foot on the brake.

This is a strange thing, to go from a body that has to move vigorously to a body that’s only willing to walk.