The Long Road of Blog
“It’s as though I were living at last in my eyes, as I have always dreamed of doing, and I think then I know why I’ve come here: to see, and so to go out against new things—oh god how easily—like air in a breeze. It’s true there are moments—foolish moments, ecstasy on a tree stump—when I’m all but gone, scattered I like to think like seed…”
William Gass, In the Heart of the Heart of the Country
The Open-Focused Brain, a Whole New Life, (and, duh, Adoption)
I’m always surprised when I get a book from the library and find someone had written notes all over the pages.
Trusting Your Gut as an Adopted Person--Some Thoughts
In You Don’t Look Adopted, I wrote that in my life I felt as if I had one foot on the gas and one foot on the brake.
The Adoptee Body and Movement
This is a strange thing, to go from a body that has to move vigorously to a body that’s only willing to walk.
On Not Running or Staying Like You Mean It
I had a familiar feeling today when I was out in the woods with Bird: I gotta get out of here.
The Adoptee Body, Cash Money, and The Memory Palace of Bones
I have been reading a new book by David Lauterstein and Jeff Rockwell called The Memory Palace of Bones, and it has me thinking about my skeleton and the stories that it holds.
When She Named "Square One" Martha Beck Named, I Think, the Adoptee Predicament
I wrote the blog post yesterday about frozen dreams because I felt like I wasn’t going to be able to write the post I really wanted to write: this one.
The Frozen Center and Forgotten Dreams
Maybe when a baby is adopted, they should come to their new family wearing a t-shirt that says I’M GOING TO CAUSE TROUBLE so everything would be out in the open from day one.
Why I am Leading/Co-leading Two Year-Long Groups for Adopted People
I’m inviting you to join me in these groups because I believe in myself; I believe in Dr. Joyce, and I believe in you. I believe we can make good things happen if, together, we put our shoulders to the wheel of what we believe is true and push.
Why I Got Divorced or Marrying an Adoptee (Me)
I got divorced from my daughter’s father over twenty years ago, and the reason why just hit me today.
What if Three-Year-Old Me Had Had a VOICE?
Mom and Dad: We’re thinking about adopting another baby.
27,000 Strikes and You're Out
I understand the notion of three strikes and you’re out. You have two chances to figure it out, and one final chance to hit it out of the park. The thing is, if developmental trauma affected your prefrontal cortex, what if you need more chances to do something right?
A Meditation for Adoptees -- Plugging into Your Energy Source
Lie down and get comfortable.