Amy Geller was my love coach from November 10, 2020 to July 6, 2021. Amy says that she’s married because of my book, and she has a fondness for me that is generous and surprising.

What I’m trying to tell you is adoption is dirty business, and it’s better to keep it that way. The cleaner we try to make it, the less true it becomes. You took someone as your own, but they aren’t really yours.

Hey, Mom, if you are listening I just wanted to talk to you.

This story has no moral or point. It’s just a story about what I did with my ice cream sandwich. I’m not in grade school anymore, so I can write whatever I please.

“You Don’t Look Adopted” was just what I needed to believe in my ability to stay the course. To tell my own story like it is with only myself in mind.

I used to have no idea why I could not focus consistently in school.

I read recently that the infant’s body discovers hunger when it has a feeling that is addressed when the mother feeds it

When Alfonso Cuarón wanted to make a movie about being alone, he came up with the idea of putting his character out into space, unmoored, tethered to nothing.

I am not in full ownership of my life. Admitting this is humiliating and it makes me angry.

I am curious if the trauma associated with losing your mother at birth or soon after affects the body’s ability to know it is there.

On her birthday, my daughter is matching people’s donations with money of her own to help support Asian businesses that are struggling during COVID. It’s easier to think that birthdays are about cake and presents and wishes for untold happinesses. But the truth is that when we are birthed into life we get the whole Pandora’s Box.

Nash was not my dog first. Other people loved him before I will get to love him.