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“It’s as though I were living at last in my eyes, as I have always dreamed of doing, and I think then I know why I’ve come here: to see, and so to go out against new things—oh god how easily—like air in a breeze. It’s true there are moments—foolish moments, ecstasy on a tree stump—when I’m all but gone, scattered I like to think like seed…”
William Gass, In the Heart of the Heart of the Country
(Photo: Brad Ewell)
Adoption, Coping, and Swimming the Line -- Guest Blog Post by Ruth Monnig Steele
My parents brought me to it when I was four years old.
What Do You Know About Yourself -- Guest Blog Post by Joy Alegria
How do you figure out who you really are if you have pretended your whole life?
Why I Did Not Sleep Much after Flourishing with Pam Cordano and Over Fifty Adopted People (or Addiction and Adoption)
In class, Pam talked about liminal space, and in this class, because we were talking about addiction, Pam talked about the liminal space between trauma and whatever addiction we might have. In that space, we are caterpillar soup. It’s the place of transformation.
The Most Shocking Thing I Learned About Myself as an Adopted Person
The fact that it is often nearly impossible for me to focus is not my fault.
The Paradox of Loving a Mother/a Child Who is Both Yours and Not Yours
I looked at my mother with such longing and hatred. I both wanted her all to myself and I wanted to kill her. I wanted her to leave my father and my brothers and to be mine, and I wanted her to get in a car crash and die.
We Tell Stories to Find the Truth
I did not know it was okay to live in paradox, to hate and love at the same time.
Adoption and Unexpressed Rage
What if there was an understanding that relinquishment meant breakage and that follow-up care was mandatory? In baseball, when a batter gets hit in the head by a pitch, the team doesn’t just leave him lying there. They get him help!
Big Mind, Small Mind, Drunks, and Writing. To My Writing Group Who Has Been Working for Eight Months.
Big mind is merciful but not easy. Big mind is you at your very best.
Flourish: A New Series of Classes for Adopted People with Pam Cordano and Anne Heffron
It’s time for a shift. For some new energy.
An Argument Against Gratitude Sort Of
To appreciate something is to see it, is to bear witness, to observe, to experience it. To be grateful is to hand over a thank you note on a silver platter.
To Adopt and To Lie. Part 5
It’s an amazing moment when, as a child, you realize you can manipulate reality with language.
Lying. Part 4
There are many, many reasons to lie. But what if lying is not a problem? What if a lie is a call and what it really needs is a response?