When you lie, when you confabulate, write these things down. Make these statements gateways through which you can see who you are and what you want. They are not shame points. They are bright lights of information, calling to you.

I lie because I am rageful, heartbroken, starving, and confused. I am also curious, highly manipulative, and full of joy.

Lying made me feel amazing, free, sick, and scared. Telling lies created situations in the outside world that mirrored the mayhem in my internal world that I could not articulate or even perhaps feel.

The more I write, the more I typo.

I have missed amazing opportunities because I stared into the face of love and said no.

I was so startled by the loud noise of tearing and crumpling paper, as if many presents were being torn open at once by excited children on Christmas day, that I nearly fall out of my chair.

Having an authentic voice takes courage for some of us, for me.

Bonding = Call + Response

Robyn said secure attachment is presence, contact, reflection, responsiveness, and delight.

In the past few months, I have let down three adoptees (that I know of). This means that either I didn’t show up as promised or I behaved in an unpredictable, unsupportive manner.

The less I think about what you think, the more fun I have.

When I was in college and taking a creative writing class, at one point in the semester, the professor gave me his copy of The Story of O saying he thought I might like it.