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“It’s as though I were living at last in my eyes, as I have always dreamed of doing, and I think then I know why I’ve come here: to see, and so to go out against new things—oh god how easily—like air in a breeze. It’s true there are moments—foolish moments, ecstasy on a tree stump—when I’m all but gone, scattered I like to think like seed…”
William Gass, In the Heart of the Heart of the Country
(Photo: Brad Ewell)
An Adoptee's Letter to Her Younger Self on the Night Before Her Birthday -- Guest Blog Post by Deanna Freeman
Do you remember being five years old and being told you were adopted? Your mummy explained that you were special.
Panache Desai, Martin Buber, Donald Trump, and Wholehearted Living
When I breathe and pay attention to my heart, it feels like I’m trying to find someone I lost at the mall.
Walking Through the Doorway of You to Wonder and Safety
I discovered something when I finally, after over thirty years of trying, I wrote my story: the hardest work was yet to come. I was going to have to find a way to give myself permission to thrive.
Adoptees and Choice
Want to play a game? Go find an adoptee and start asking about his or her preferences. What I have noticed in myself and in many of the adoptees I know is that we will first try to find out what you prefer and then go along with that choice.
A Packaging Problem -- A Guest Post by Ruth Monnig
In French, the term, “I miss you,” is “ tu me manques.” Literally, that is something akin to “I am missing you from me.”
Power, Love, Courage, Wonder
I think it started the first time I saw my mother’s legs in stockings.
Oh, Mama. Please Help Me.
Resmaa Menakem, in his talk with Krista Tippett on her podcast On Being, said the tears of a white woman have a certain kind of power.
My Two Grandfathers -- Adoption and Race -- Guest Blog Post by Jack Rocco
We talked about my father. She wasn’t exactly sure of his ethnicity or race.
Dear Adoptive Parents Who Feel Over Their Heads
I read a plea recently on Twitter by an adoptee asking adoptive parents to say something positive about their (adopted) children.
A Murder of Crows -- Guest Blog Post by Amy McLain
I stayed up late last night, waiting to see if anything was happening with the protests.
Trying to Get My Adoptee Brain to be Organized Feels Like Trying to Pack a Lion into a Straw
There is a part of the brain that deals with something called executive function.