I have missed amazing opportunities because I stared into the face of love and said no.

I was so startled by the loud noise of tearing and crumpling paper, as if many presents were being torn open at once by excited children on Christmas day, that I nearly fall out of my chair.

Having an authentic voice takes courage for some of us, for me.

Robyn said secure attachment is presence, contact, reflection, responsiveness, and delight.

In the past few months, I have let down three adoptees (that I know of). This means that either I didn’t show up as promised or I behaved in an unpredictable, unsupportive manner.

The less I think about what you think, the more fun I have.

When I was in college and taking a creative writing class, at one point in the semester, the professor gave me his copy of The Story of O saying he thought I might like it.

Looking for a partner-in-love.

Do you remember being five years old and being told you were adopted? Your mummy explained that you were special.

When I breathe and pay attention to my heart, it feels like I’m trying to find someone I lost at the mall.

I discovered something when I finally, after over thirty years of trying, I wrote my story: the hardest work was yet to come. I was going to have to find a way to give myself permission to thrive.

Want to play a game? Go find an adoptee and start asking about his or her preferences. What I have noticed in myself and in many of the adoptees I know is that we will first try to find out what you prefer and then go along with that choice.