Robyn said secure attachment is presence, contact, reflection, responsiveness, and delight.

In the past few months, I have let down three adoptees (that I know of). This means that either I didn’t show up as promised or I behaved in an unpredictable, unsupportive manner.

The less I think about what you think, the more fun I have.

When I was in college and taking a creative writing class, at one point in the semester, the professor gave me his copy of The Story of O saying he thought I might like it.

Looking for a partner-in-love.

Do you remember being five years old and being told you were adopted? Your mummy explained that you were special.

When I breathe and pay attention to my heart, it feels like I’m trying to find someone I lost at the mall.

I discovered something when I finally, after over thirty years of trying, I wrote my story: the hardest work was yet to come. I was going to have to find a way to give myself permission to thrive.

Want to play a game? Go find an adoptee and start asking about his or her preferences. What I have noticed in myself and in many of the adoptees I know is that we will first try to find out what you prefer and then go along with that choice.

In French, the term, “I miss you,” is “ tu me manques.” Literally, that is something akin to “I am missing you from me.”

I think it started the first time I saw my mother’s legs in stockings.

Resmaa Menakem, in his talk with Krista Tippett on her podcast On Being, said the tears of a white woman have a certain kind of power.