The Long Road of Blog
“It’s as though I were living at last in my eyes, as I have always dreamed of doing, and I think then I know why I’ve come here: to see, and so to go out against new things—oh god how easily—like air in a breeze. It’s true there are moments—foolish moments, ecstasy on a tree stump—when I’m all but gone, scattered I like to think like seed…”
William Gass, In the Heart of the Heart of the Country
The Art of Feeling Goodbye
It occurred today that I keep leaving places, people, and things because some part of me is trying to figure out how to get goodbye right.
Gratitude, Adoption, and Feeling the Impossible
Out in the world when I tell someone I’m adopted and they tell me I must be grateful, something else entirely happens. It’s like my cells are bumper cars and they start crashing into each other.
Limiting Beliefs, Adoption, and What Life Can You Dream for Yourself When You Feel Stuck in Tar?
This work was a direct challenge to how I saw myself in the world. I believed the stories I told myself.
Why Feeling Gratitude as an Adopted Person Could be Linked with Shame
What if we are biologically programmed not to feel gratitude in some situations?
Being the Dream
It occurred to me today as I was packing that it’s not so much about chasing a dream as being it.
What if There was a New Kind of Me Too Group for Offspring of Adopted People?
My head does not love to go down the road of, “What was it like for my daughter to be raised with someone who has CPTSD and an anxious-avoidant attachment style” because it feels like I’m banging said head against a wall.
Square One Rips Off Your Antennae and Eats Your Feet
I don’t know what to tell you, but I’m going to try.
Dying for Attention
Sharing of yourself can be so complicated when you don’t have a sense of what the rules are.
L.U.I. - Living Under the Influence: Notes on Thought Addiction and Adoptee Sobriety.
Where we pay attention is where we give our power. Many adopted people think a great deal about the past, about what could have or should have been. What does that do to our strength?
The Body Compass and Living in Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Fawn
Early in the Martha Beck Wayfinder coaching program, we learned the body compass was our greatest tool for knowing what was good or not good for us, for what was true or not true for us.
Writing the Sequel to You Don’t Look Adopted
One thing I’ve learned (of so so many things) in Martha Beck’s Wayfinder course is that a direct way of confronting anxiety is to head into creativity.