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On Living With Adoption and Triggers
I was wondering the other day if you put 1,000 adopted people in a room and 1,000 kept people in another room, what percent of each group would consciously or unconsciously be worried about getting triggered.
The Day of Hearts
One challenge of writing about adoption is that the closer to the truth of the experience I get, the more alienated I feel from culture’s beliefs, and the crazier and more alien I feel when I imagine sharing these ideas with those who weren’t adopted.
I’m Not On MDMA But It Sure Feels Like I Am — An Adoptee on Experiencing Dysregulation in Slow Motion
I have the feeling the sessions I did the past two years on MDMA taught my brain how to sometimes slow time and to stay with the tangle of a problem, watching it unwind instead of jumping into reaction and tightening it.
The Tin Man and Little Sausage — Chapter 4 — Mothering the Relinquished Self
Sometimes I get an urge to throw everything I own away.
The Tin Man and Little Sausage — Chapter 3
What if one day a mother, out of the blue, threw her child down the stairs and then refused to acknowledge that it happened or talk about it?
The Tin Man and Little Sausage - Chapter Two
Showing up, I have discovered, is complicated when you were adopted. At least it is for me.
The Tin Man and Little Sausage — Chapter 1—or The Book I Drove Across the Country Not to Write
I wonder if sometimes a hen gets desperate to lay her egg before it has fully egged nside of her. I wonder if she ever goes to her bedding and pushes until her eyes cross.
Enough. A 6-Month Workshop for Adopted People Who Don’t Have Enough Money.
Our culture thinks adoption is the answer to a pregnant woman feeling alone and in trouble. In my experience, the problem didn’t end when my mother relinquished me to parents who purportedly had more financial resources.
Storytelling and Steering your Boat to the Stars
I was feeling all over the place as a writer the other day, so I created a picture to help remind me of who I am and what I want to create, how I want to create it, and why.
Karpman Drama Triangle — Victim to Creator — and the Adoptee Experience
We learned about how to flip the role of victim creator in Wayfinder training, and I have watched the video of Martha Beck teaching us this concept at least ten times because I’m trying to imprint it on my brain.
Adoption and Living With Attachment Disorder
I have two dreams for my life: one is to have a house full of people and things I love, and the other is to be free to go anywhere I want with little more than the clothes on my back.
