The Long Road of Blog
Adoption and Power or How Come I’m So Confused and Tired
The word for what happened to me as a baby doesn’t exist, and so I don’t have the power I need to feel fully present and connected to others.
For the 30-Year-Old Adopted Man Who Wrote to Me That He Felt Broken After Coming Out of the Fog and Wanted Love
The thing about feeling broken is that “broken” is related to “broke” which is related to “not whole” or “in trouble”.
Surviving or Creating: Shifting from an Adoptee Mindset to Your Own
Someone once gave me a dishtowel that says But Did You Die?
Three Life-Changing Ideas I Had about Being Adopted While Listening to Podcasts and Driving 3,282 Miles
I thought about the writing classes I have with adopted people, and how, 100% of the time, when they read their work out loud, I feel in the presence of something holy.
For the Adoptive Mom Who Wondered Just How Many Times Her Daughter Would Hit Bottom
You said your daughter’s therapist wondered how many times your daughter would hit bottom.
Asking for Help When You Believe No One Can Help You and Adoption
I took To Be Real, the sequel to You Don’t Look Adopted off the market after I spent seven hours in the recording studio reading it for the Audible version. I kept saying to the guy at the controls, Is this over yet?
Being A Bitch At Dunkie's or Boston, I Love You
I was pulling out the Dunkin's parking lot when a woman walking her dog came out from behind my car and walked in front of me. She gave me a long, mean look as she walked in front of my car, like, You almost ran me over.
Emotions As Doorways Into Your Story Part 2
On Instagram, I asked adopted people what emotions they did not like to feel.
Emotions As Doorways Into Your Story Part 1
So many people want to write some version of their life story and, even though it's something they lived, something they know, they can't do it.
What We're Up Against In The Adoptee Subconscious Mind And A Meditation To Make You Feel Loved And Seen
I created six groups of three adopted people and gave them ten minutes to act like one brain and come up with a list of what they believed were the negative messages …
Three Words That Can Change A Life
I was trying to figure out how to turn the air conditioner on with my key fob so I could leave Bird in the car while I ran in to grab some things
Why I Hate My Riding Lessons
My helmet cost over $400. I thought the price was a code. Remember when candy bars were a quarter?
2. The love I had for horses as a kid has been replaced by fear.