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“It’s as though I were living at last in my eyes, as I have always dreamed of doing, and I think then I know why I’ve come here: to see, and so to go out against new things—oh god how easily—like air in a breeze. It’s true there are moments—foolish moments, ecstasy on a tree stump—when I’m all but gone, scattered I like to think like seed…”
William Gass, In the Heart of the Heart of the Country
(Photo: Brad Ewell)
Our Brains Want the Story of {Adoption} to Be Something It Isn't -- an Atlantic Magazine Article I Pirated
If the pandemic were a movie, it wouldn’t make any sense.
Is It About Coming Out of the Fog or Is It Really About Stepping Into the Fog? Guest Blog Post by Angela Wrigley
I was just fine before. Struggling, but fine. Now I’m in shock, and my brain feels murky and sticky. Now I feel like I’m living in a fog.
Revisiting How to Date an Adopted Person (Me)
A woman emailed me recently because her boyfriend had broken up with her and she was hoping it was because he was adopted.
The Best (the only?) App That Gives You Meditations about IBS and Pooping and Farting
I am in HEAVEN and it’s all because of an app I found for people with I.B.S. I don’t even know if I officially have I.B.S., but after a free week-long trial and then a $60ish payment, I officially have the Nerva app.
Why and How You Tell Your Story When You Are Afraid You Will Lose Those You Love When They Read It
The reason why you would tell your story when you are afraid you will lose those you love when they read it is so you will lose them.
To the Father of a 16-Year-Old Adoptee Who Wanted to Know What He Could Do Better
Oh, dear, sweet man. My heart goes out to you and your daughter. Living in and with a relinquished/adopted body is so painful and confusing.
Writing and Living and The Megaphone Voice
When you show yourself to people who don’t get you, who don’t help you feel seen, appreciated, loved or understood, the tendency can be to turtle and hide. But what if you just keep at it until you find the people who do get it? What if that’s your life’s work? To be you?
The Importance of Telling Your Story
If the people you know don’t like your stories, find new people and/or take a storytelling class to find out if you are an unskilled storyteller and need to brush up on your techniques.
New Skin--a Guest Blog Post by Leah Cooper (ending 2021 with big love to Adoptees On)
I want to tell you about the time I was on Haley Radke’s podcast, Adoptees On. Actually, I don’t want to tell you about it. Anne Heffron wants me to tell you about it because she thinks this weird shame spiral that I went into after telling my story in such a public way is an experience that other adoptees can relate to and learn from. I don’t want to even think about, much less talk about it, but I’m trying to learn from it, so here goes.