Why do we teach our kids sex ed before we teach them self love?

The reason why you would tell your story when you are afraid you will lose those you love when they read it is so you will lose them.

Oh, dear, sweet man. My heart goes out to you and your daughter. Living in and with a relinquished/adopted body is so painful and confusing.

When you show yourself to people who don’t get you, who don’t help you feel seen, appreciated, loved or understood, the tendency can be to turtle and hide. But what if you just keep at it until you find the people who do get it? What if that’s your life’s work? To be you?

If the people you know don’t like your stories, find new people and/or take a storytelling class to find out if you are an unskilled storyteller and need to brush up on your techniques.

You may have only a hand in the tornado, but you need your whole self to create your whole self.

I want to tell you about the time I was on Haley Radke’s podcast, Adoptees On. Actually, I don’t want to tell you about it. Anne Heffron wants me to tell you about it because she thinks this weird shame spiral that I went into after telling my story in such a public way is an experience that other adoptees can relate to and learn from. I don’t want to even think about, much less talk about it, but I’m trying to learn from it, so here goes.

What happens when you let yourself burn? What things would you say that are, as of this moment, frozen inside, killing you from the inside out?

I got Dr. Joyce Maguire Pavao to say yes!

This is my holiday fantasy, my tale to tell, at play in the field of memory—

I tried three times to give him away. Well, one time I didn’t try to give him away: I tried to sell him.

I cannot celebrate dead adoptee day this year just as I could not celebrate it last year.