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“It’s as though I were living at last in my eyes, as I have always dreamed of doing, and I think then I know why I’ve come here: to see, and so to go out against new things—oh god how easily—like air in a breeze. It’s true there are moments—foolish moments, ecstasy on a tree stump—when I’m all but gone, scattered I like to think like seed…”

William Gass, In the Heart of the Heart of the Country

(Photo: Brad Ewell)

Anne Heffron 3/3/21 Anne Heffron 3/3/21

Thoughts on the Body

Sometimes it’s easier to love what isn’t there. Sometimes it feels easier to live in your head instead of in your body.

Anne Heffron 3/2/21 Anne Heffron 3/2/21

The House of Felt Safety that is Our Body

As I listened to Panache today, I thought about pretending to go to graduate school for a sense of felt safety.

Anne Heffron 2/26/21 Anne Heffron 2/26/21

Speak, Adoption

Just how many times can you cry in front of your spouse or your best friend or your child and say, I’m thinking about when I was a baby? I’m wondering why my mother didn’t want me? I’m bent over double because I can’t believe this happened?

Anne Heffron 2/24/21 Anne Heffron 2/24/21

Calling to Others When Grief Hits Hard -- Guest Blog Post by Stuart Watson

Any adoptee who is “out of the fog” knows where the grief started - day one. The separation. I just don’t know where it ends. I don’t know IF it ends.

Anne Heffron 2/23/21 Anne Heffron 2/23/21

My New Writing Group -- Adventure Time!

I believe in collaboration. I believe in the power of writing. I believe that when you step into your voice and combine that with writing, community, and collaboration, anything is possible.

Anne Heffron 2/21/21 Anne Heffron 2/21/21

There is No Perfect Time. Sometimes You Must Dare to Jump. -- Guest Blog Post by Sara Disselkamp

This blog was actually created over two years ago and has sat gathering cobwebs with the “private” setting on. (Some good that’s doing.) I would write, and then I would get too nervous to do anything with what I wrote.

Anne Heffron 2/18/21 Anne Heffron 2/18/21

Adopted People and Mutuality

I love Pam Cordano for countless reasons, and one is her ability to name things in a way that changes my life.

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One Reason It Can Be Terrifying to Feel Successful in Life as an Adopted Person

Sometimes I think the greatest gift you could give an adult adoptee is a few nights of deep, restful sleep.

Anne Heffron 2/15/21 Anne Heffron 2/15/21

Adopted People and Narcissists

It occurred to me that what I take as self-centeredness in myself—a preoccupation with finding a safe felt sense of self in the world—is perhaps a corrupted version of narcissism.