Thank you for making my world a better place. May this year be full of miracles and wonder.

Would you rather start your day an open door of anticipation or a freak show of anxiety? Your call. You decide.

Last night I was talking to Amy Geller. She is writing a book about about being both an adopted person and a therapist and what she has learned along the way that has allowed her to, finally, really, really, wildly thrive.

Except the world forgets about the fragility of skin when it gives a baby from one mother to another, and so your skin gets damaged, and it tells your brain things are wrong, there is trouble, you are in crisis, and your brain tries to protect you, tries to take you off this new planet for which you have not been prepared.

If life were a ship, I was standing at the back, focused on the churning waters of the past. Who gives a shit what you do if all that matters is what happened yesterday and making yourself feel better because yesterday was hard?

I love the Fab Five: Antoni, Jonathan, Karamo, Bobby, and Tan. I love the whole concept of the show Queer Eye: go into someone’s life who is struggling and, in a week, overhaul whatever is causing major problems: their house, their body, their relationships, and, always, their sense of self-worth.

Listening to your own voice is such a generous gift you can give to both yourself and the world.

If change were easy it would be called a candy bar. Change can be terrifying. Walk around your house with your eyes closed for fifteen minutes. Suddenly this safe space is so dangerous! Now walk around your life with no idea who you really are if you aren’t the spouse and job and friends that make you sick. You may feel like you are dying, and that’s because you are, or at least the bound, half-alive part of you is.

Because to truly love someone, I think, also involves the luxury of hate, of fury, of anger, of disappointment, of honesty.

I think writer’s block is an energetic thing that indicates a really good story is banging at the door. 

Why do you write?

If there is money, and there is, for people to adopt children torn without consent from their parents, there is money to fund search and reunion.